This is the first of many of my Ecuador blogs, and I just wanted to start by saying sorry some of these posts will be out of order. I haven’t been diligent about getting my posts up on time, so I am going to focus on improving, in this area.
Well let’s not delay any further and get into the meat of this blog post dealing with the bad days, more specifically the bad, and/or difficult days you many experience while abroad. I would just like to start off by stating that while I am a sentimental person, I am not one who tends to get homesick. This does not mean that I don’t love my family or the people in my life, but I can deal with being on my own fairly well, and I accredit this to the fact that I am an only child. I am simply mentioning this, because for me the bad days aren’t necessarily about missing particular people in my life, so if you’re looking for a blog about how to deal with homesickness this is not the proper post.
For me, the bad days are when you question why you even decided to study abroad for a whole semester, when you feel like you’re missing out at home; when you think you may haven chosen the wrong country, or when your language skills are making you want to pull your hair and scream (I haven’t done it yet, but it’s been considered). To begin, I am currently in Quito, Ecuador a Spanish speaking country, and while I have been taking Spanish for a while and have intermediate communication skills, boy can it be difficult sometimes. It’s hard when you are speaking another language, and it’s obvious it’s not your native tongue, it’s hard when people don’t want to work with you and write you off as some incompetent Gringa, because you cannot fully express yourself, and it’s hard when you aren’t progressing at the level you want to. I’m a Type A, sometime-y perfectionist, and I am especially impatient with myself– I’ll be the first to admit, I enjoy knowing things, more than I do the process of learning.
The thing about studying abroad is that you don’t have full control, you can plan your trip and set your goals, and these are all great things to do, but at the end of the day your environment and your experiences are often, going to be out of your control. I’m continuously learning and growing here, and I am learning to breath and let it be. It’s a lot easier to focus on everything that is going wrong, to discourage yourself, however it is much more rewarding, to remind yourself of the progress you have made, and to reflect on everything you have learned. Sure it’s frustrating when you’re trying to have a conversation with someone, and you aren’t fully understanding what they are trying to communicate with you, but in these times I try and remind myself “hey, you just took two new buses and navigated yourself to a museum in a part of town you had never been to before”, these reminders can be helpful and much needed.
There is no clear cut method to overcoming the bad days, because everyone is different, and processes their emotions differently. Personally, I have found it beneficial to allow myself to feel my frustrations, and then move on, get out of the house and try something new. I’ll go get my nails done, walk to the farmacia and order medicine (in Spanish, may I add), or try out a new restaurant. The important thing is to keep moving, keep trying and experiencing new things, and don’t let yourself mope and be discouraged. Remember, studying abroad is fun, adventurous, and rewarding, but it is also filled with hurdles, complications, and miscommunications, if studying abroad was easy, if it was comfortable more students would be willing to give it a try. Pat yourself on the back and keep it moving, because you did it, you took the leap of faith and challenged yourself, and with time you will become so much better because of it.
Embrace the bad days, the lonely days, the sad days, because it makes the GREAT ones so much better!